Pearls of Wisdom

From phonics checks to GCSEs, children in the UK face more than a dozen formal assessments before 17. Each test whispers that performance equals worth. But your worth is not measured in grades. Many who didn’t thrive in school grow into the most resilient, creative, and compassionate adults — the square pegs we need now more than ever. Emotional Recalibration helps untangle self-worth from old labels and remind you: you are not broken, you are becoming.

If I had three lives, I’d marry you in two… Sarah Russell’s poem captures the longing for alternate selves — the lives we imagine but don’t live. In this reflection, I explore what those “unlived lives” can teach us about healing, why pausing is essential for recovery, and how Emotional Recalibration invites us to live this one life more fully.

A medicine woman isn’t here to fix you — she knows you’re not broken. She walks with you through grief, trauma, and change, holding space for your body, mind, and soul to remember their own healing. This is complementary care: slow, steady, and sacred.

We don’t just find ourselves in patterns — we repeat them. Beneath each repetition is a belief formed in childhood, reinforced by survival, and echoed through love, work, and life. In this post, Stella Dove explores the origin of emotional loops — and how to rewrite what you’ve been told about yourself.

An in-depth blog exploring toxic empathy, its root causes in trauma and attachment, and how to heal through somatic awareness and emotional boundaries.

How Stella holds space, and welcomes honest, respectful dialogue before you begin Emotional Recalibration

Most of us don’t realise how powerful a daily meditation practice can be. It’s not just calming — it’s transformational. This playful and poetic piece reveals why making space for stillness is essential for nervous system regulation, emotional clarity, and cosmic alignment. Something beginning with M... might just change your life.

What happens to a daughter’s body when her father isn’t emotionally present? This piece explores the deep and often invisible imprint left by the absent father — not just on the psyche, but on the body itself. From self-loathing to poor boundaries, we unpack how unmet needs distort self-image, and how healing becomes possible through Emotional Recalibration Therapy. You are not too much. You are not broken. You are becoming.

ADHD isn't just a neurological quirk — it's often rooted in unhealed childhood trauma. From chaotic desktops to time blindness and sensory overload, this blog explores how adult ADHD may reflect emotional survival patterns. It's not about shame — it's about understanding, healing, and reclaiming your rhythm.

Healing isn’t linear, and mindset work isn’t always graceful. Sometimes it’s like attempting a Chinese handstand in lotus position… and farting. But just like stretching into a new shape, emotional growth takes repetition, courage, and a willingness to feel awkward. This post explores why Emotional Recalibration Therapy is like soul-gym for your inner child — and why six weeks can change the way you move through life, love, and yourself.

What you suppress stays in the body—shaping your breath, your heart, your health. This is a letter to the woman (and man) longing to release and return.

Avoiding difficult conversations might feel safer—but it slowly erodes your truth. This is your call to courageous communication and radical self-respect.

At ninety-two, a father reflects not on achievements, but on regrets. What was left unsaid. What was left undone. This short piece asks: can we choose differently, now—before it’s too late?

A few years ago, I created The Oyster Club, a business and social networking club, and I was known as the Mother of Pearl

This practice involves breaking a wooden arrow with the soft part of your throat, symbolising the breaking of mental and emotional barriers.

Some techniques take years of mastering. Some people claim they can fix things in a day. This is somewhere in-between. These 6 Tips to boost self esteem are just enough to help stop that nagging feeling of not being quite enough...

The Road of Life can get a bit bumpy from time to time can't it? It's easy to feel that all is against you when this happens.