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🧠 What Is a Narcissist?
- Stella Dove PDCH MBSCH
- Oct 6
- 19 min read
Updated: Nov 28
Why a Narcissist Is Powerless Without an Empath
A narcissist is someone who mistakes control for connection.
They build power from absence - absence of empathy, reflection, and accountability - and survive by drawing life from those who feel deeply.
Narcissism isn’t confidence; it’s collapse disguised as charisma.
Behind the polished mask lies a fractured self, terrified of insignificance, endlessly hungry for admiration.
Every compliment is a lifeline; every boundary feels like betrayal.
But here’s the truth few acknowledge: a narcissist is powerless without an empath.
They need your resonance to feel real. Your warmth becomes their mirror; your intuition becomes their script. The empath senses the wound beneath the armour and reaches to soothe it — not realising she is feeding the very void that drains her.
If anything in this resonates too strongly, pause for a moment and return to your breath.
Your body is remembering something old — not failing something new.
You’re allowed to slow down. You’re allowed to take this at your own pace.
This dance isn’t born from malice alone, but from mutual wounding.
Where the narcissist hides behind grandiosity, the empath hides behind goodness. One fears being small; the other fears being selfish. Both were taught love must be earned — one through dominance, the other through devotion.
Healing begins when you stop mistaking intensity for intimacy — when you remember that compassion doesn’t require self-abandonment.
If you’ve ever felt yourself shrinking - speaking softer, thinking smaller, questioning your own eyes and ears - you may have whispered that desperate question:
“Am I with a narcissist?”
You’re not alone.
So many who arrive at this crossroads are tender souls - deep feelers who confuse endurance for empathy, who mistake chaos for chemistry, who think love means understanding harder.
But this question isn’t really about them.
It’s about you - about the ache of being unseen, unheard, and endlessly contorted in the name of connection.
So before we diagnose, we must humanise.
Because what the world calls narcissism is, at its root, a wound wearing armour - a small, terrified child who learned that dominance is safer than dependence, performance safer than presence.
The Empath and the Echo
How It Shows Up in Relationships
Narcissists rarely announce themselves; they arrive as saviours, soulmates, or students of self-development.
They mirror your light, repeat your language, and reflect the version of love you’ve longed for — at least at first.
At the beginning, it feels like destiny:
They see you, get you, and adore you.
You exhale, thinking, “Finally — someone who meets me in my depth.”
But soon, the mirror begins to distort.
What started as admiration becomes evaluation.
Your boundaries are reframed as rejection.
Your feelings become “too much.”
Your needs, “needy.”
Your truth, “a trigger.”
These relational echoes often begin much earlier —
shaped by the Mother Wound (fear of upsetting others)
or the Father Wound (fear of anger, withdrawal, or disapproval).
These early imprints set the template for adult dynamics.
You find yourself walking on eggshells -
editing your words, your tone, your timing,
trying to avoid the next cold silence or cutting remark.
They withdraw affection to regain control, then flood you with intensity when they fear losing you.
This is the cycle of idealise → devalue → discard → hoover,
a loop that keeps your nervous system trapped between hope and heartbreak.
Over time, your body learns to live in hyper-alert.
The pulse quickens, the breath shallows.
You become an expert in reading moods, scanning faces, anticipating storms -
a form of emotional contortion that feels like love but is really survival.
Inside this dance, the empath becomes the echo:
repeating apologies for wounds she didn’t cause,
offering softness to soften rage,
believing peace can be purchased with more patience.
But love is not meant to erase you.
And devotion is not meant to be a disappearing act.
When you notice that being loved feels like performing,
when connection demands the cost of your voice,
it’s not love - it’s conditioning.
You are not difficult; you are diminished.
And the moment you name it, the spell begins to loosen.
🔥 Why Empaths Confuse Intensity for Intimacy
For many empaths, love was first felt through adrenaline — not safety.
If you grew up tracking moods, soothing storms, or earning closeness through caretaking, your nervous system learned that emotional intensity was the currency of connection.
So when a narcissistic partner arrives with passion, depth, attention, and urgency, the body mistakes the surge for love — when in truth, it is familiarity.
Intensity is the echo of the old wound; intimacy is the healing of it.
Learning the difference is where freedom begins.
What Happens to the Nervous System and the Inner Child
The Impact on the Self
Living with narcissistic dynamics isn’t just emotionally draining - it’s neurologically disorienting.
Your body, designed to be a barometer of truth, becomes a battlefield of confusion.
You start doubting your perceptions,
questioning whether the storm you feel inside is “real enough” to name.
This is gaslighting - not merely manipulation,
but a systematic dismantling of your inner compass.
Each dismissal of your feelings whispers to your nervous system:
🧠 Your truth is unsafe.
💔 Your needs are too much.
😶 Your reality is negotiable.
So your body adapts - brilliantly, tragically.
The fight response turns inward: self-blame, perfectionism, hypervigilance.
The flight response manifests as overwork, overthinking, outrunning the ache.
The freeze response appears as dissociation — the floating, the fog, the sense of watching life from behind glass.
And the fawn response — the favourite of the empath —becomes the art of appeasement,
pleasing your way back to safety, soothing others so they don’t abandon you.
But in the process, you abandon yourself.
Over time, the body learns a pattern of appeasement so ingrained it feels like identity.
You forget who you were before walking on eggshells.
You forget what joy feels like without permission.
You forget that love is supposed to land softly — not arrive with a checklist.
This is where Emotional Recalibration enters:not as a quick fix, but as a rewiring of safety.
Through trauma-informed inner child healing, you begin to:
Anchor back into your body as home, not enemy.
Relearn the difference between peace and pleasing.
Rebuild trust in your inner voice — the one that always knew.
You discover that your sensitivity wasn’t the problem.
It was your superpower, misused in survival.
When the nervous system learns that truth isn’t dangerous,
it no longer needs to shrink or shout.
It can rest.
It can receive.
It can finally, quietly, belong.
If these survival patterns feel familiar, you can explore them more deeply in my guide to What Is Meant By Fight Flight Freeze and Fawn- ancient survival codes we carry into modern relationships.
🎭 Gaslighting — The Quiet Collapse of Your Inner Compass
Gaslighting is not confusion — it is erosion.
It is the slow, deliberate dismantling of your relationship with your own perception.
It sounds like:
• “That never happened.”
• “You’re too sensitive.”
• “You’re imagining things.”
• “You always overreact.”
• “You’re remembering it wrong.”
And over time, the body learns a devastating lesson:
“My reality is negotiable.”
Gaslighting severs you from the inner compass that once kept you safe.
You start doubting your memories, your instincts, your tone, your needs — even the sensations in your own body.
This is why survivors often describe feeling foggy, frozen, apologetic, or emotionally dependent.
It isn’t weakness.
It is survival.
Because when someone rewrites your truth often enough, trusting yourself begins to feel dangerous.
👉 If you want to understand this dynamic more deeply, my full guide on gaslighting is here:
The Science: Why Narcissists “Read” You So Well (But Don’t Feel You)
This neurobiological understanding builds on the foundations explored in
🧊 What Is Functional Freeze? — how the nervous system adapts to emotional unpredictability. Recent research by di Giacomo and colleagues (2023) shines light on this paradox. Narcissistic individuals often show intact cognitive empathy — the ability to analyse and recognise others’ emotional states — yet struggle profoundly with affective empathy, the capacity to feel with another (di Giacomo et al., 2023).
This empathy split means that narcissists can read you like a script but cannot meet you in the scene.They may use emotional insight as leverage, not intimacy. Empathy becomes a tool, not a tether — a means to impress, extract, or control rather than connect.
Under threat, their neural networks — particularly the anterior insula and anterior cingulate cortex, regions tied to emotion and salience — fail to switch smoothly. The system defaults to self-focus, prioritising how things reflect on them over how things land for you (di Giacomo et al., 2023).
When shame or rivalry is triggered, emotional closeness can feel like danger.
Their response?
Criticism. Withdrawal. Coldness.
There are nuances between grandiose and vulnerable (covert) narcissism.
Grandiose types display overt superiority and emotional coldness.
Vulnerable types show hypersensitivity and shame-proneness, yet their distress remains self-referential, not empathic.
Both can weaponise cognitive empathy — knowing what you feel — while blocking affective empathy — refusing to feel it with you.
This is the terrain of what researchers call dark empathy: emotional intelligence deployed for self-serving ends.
Their help is strategic: generous when praised, absent when unseen. It’s help that serves the image, not the intimacy.
For empaths, this insight matters deeply.
Your compassion fuels their persona.
Your intuition writes their lines.
When you stop over-functioning - when you withdraw emotional labour and install sacred boundaries - their power dissolves.
Not because you are cruel, but because you are no longer the supply.
How the Empathy Split Lands in Real Life
(Bridging the science to the soul)
You’ve met this before - perhaps not in a textbook, but in your own body.
It’s the charm that curdles into critique.
The “I understand you” that later becomes “You’re too sensitive.”
The gaze that once saw your soul, now measuring your compliance.
Think of Lord Byron, the romantic poet who adored intensity but devoured devotion - writing, “The great object of life is sensation - to feel that we exist, even though in pain.”
There it is - the creed of the narcissistic psyche: better chaos than vulnerability, better domination than dependence.
Or consider modern icons of charisma who crumble behind closed doors - leaders, lovers, influencers - dazzling in public empathy, detached in private life. They can mimic concern, yet their comfort has conditions: admire me, agree with me, or I withdraw.
In real life, the empathy split looks like this:
They know exactly what you need to hear — but offer it only when it serves them.
They can apologise eloquently, but nothing ever changes.
They show empathy in public, cruelty in private.
They mirror your dreams, then mock your growth.
And perhaps most confusingly - they sometimes do good. They donate, volunteer, perform generosity - but it’s generosity with a spotlight. Their heart opens only when the camera rolls.
This dissonance keeps the empath tethered:
“If they can be so loving sometimes, maybe it’s me.”
But no. It’s not you. It’s the split.
You’re dealing with someone who can see emotion, not feel it.
And when your warmth stops rehearsing their worth, they falter - because without your reflection, they cannot recognise themselves.
So you reclaim the mirror.
You stop performing peace.
You remember: your empathy is sacred.
“My empathy is sacred.
It is for connection, not control.
I will not abandon myself to keep the peace.”
🪶 The Medicine Woman and the Wounded Narcissist - Archetypes in the Dark Mirror
If the empath is the tender heart, the Medicine Woman is her older sister — the one who sees patterns, reads energy, and feels truth beneath the surface long before it’s spoken.
She isn’t drawn to narcissists by accident.
She is drawn by instinct — by the ache in the other that mirrors the ache she once carried.
The narcissist senses her too.
Not her strength — her depth.
They mistake her intuition for adoration, her softness for supply, her compassion for consent.
The Medicine Woman enters believing she can heal what is broken.
But healing cannot happen where there is no humility.
Her gifts become misinterpreted, misunderstood, or misused.
Her empathy becomes currency; her light becomes resource.
And yet — when she awakens, she awakens completely.
She becomes the woman who:
• no longer abandons herself in someone else’s wound
• no longer confuses chaos for chemistry
• no longer offers medicine to someone who wants control, not healing
• remembers that her intuition is a compass, not a leash
For many, this dynamic is what activates the medicine woman initiation — the moment a woman realises that her sensitivity, her knowing, her depth, were never the problem.
👉 If this archetype resonates, you may want to read:
🌑 When Empathy Turns Into Self-Erasure
How Narcissistic Dynamics Activate the Shadow Self
These relational ruptures don’t only wound the heart — they awaken the hidden parts of you that learned to survive by staying small.
This is where the Shadow Self emerges: the pieces of your identity you exiled to remain loved, chosen, or safe.
For many empaths, the shadow is not cruelty or rage — it is need, anger, truth, intuition, boundaries, and self-respect.
The very qualities a narcissistic dynamic punishes become the ones you hide first.
You silence what might cause conflict.
You dim what might trigger comparison.
You disappear where you once would have stood tall.
This is also where toxic empathy takes root — empathy that stops being connection and becomes self-abandonment.
You begin to absorb emotions that aren’t yours, regulate other people’s discomfort, and carry the weight of someone else’s unhealed shame.
It feels like compassion, but it’s really enmeshment — the nervous system’s attempt to prevent rejection by managing the emotional climate for everyone else.
And underneath all of this lives a much older wound:
the fear of being unwanted.
Narcissistic dynamics reawaken rejection wounds that were never named — the childhood moments where you learned it was safer to please than to need, safer to agree than to be yourself.
When the Shadow Self is activated, you don’t become your worst self —you lose access to your whole self.
The work of healing is not exorcising these shadows, but welcoming them back into the light: the assertiveness, the clarity, the anger, the boundaries, the belonging to yourself.
Because the parts you hid to stay chosen are the parts you now need to come home.
A Glimpse in the Spotlight: Miley Cyrus and the Mirror of Empathy
We see the empathy split not just in private life, but played out on the public stage.
Fame itself is a mirror — one that reflects adoration yet rarely intimacy.
Take Miley Cyrus, who once lived as Hannah Montana - half-child, half-commodity - performing purity and rebellion in alternating breaths. She learned early how to read the room, how to offer what was desired, how to be everything to everyone. That’s cognitive empathy in overdrive: sensing what others want and shape-shifting to meet it.
But performance without presence breeds hollowness. In a 2024 interview, she admitted she’d “inherited narcissism” from her father - not as confession, but as awareness of lineage, of learning love through spotlight and survival.
And then I really saw her vulnerability under her veneer - her duet with Metallica.
The grit of her powerful voice tore through the polish; for a moment, the persona cracked, the ache inside revealed, and the person sang.
The empathy turned inward.
The mirror became a window.
That’s what healing looks like in real time: the Performer laying down the costume; the empath returning to her own pulse.
We don’t need to be seen to be safe.
We don’t need to perform love to prove worth.
When empathy matures, it stops orbiting other people’s approval and anchors in its own aliveness.
How to Begin Healing After Narcissistic Wounding
Reclaiming Safety, Sovereignty, and Self-Trust
Healing after narcissistic conditioning is not about revenge, or even understanding them.
It’s about returning to yourself - the parts you silenced to stay safe.
This kind of trauma doesn’t just live in your mind - it lodges in your nervous system.
That’s why even long after leaving, survivors often feel anxious, hypervigilant, or numb.
Your body became the battleground where love and fear coexisted.
So healing must begin where the harm was held — in the body.
💠 Step One: Recalibrate the Nervous System
You can’t think your way out of survival mode.
Through gentle, trauma-informed practices - breathwork, grounding, somatic awareness -you teach your system:
“It’s safe now.”
Safety is the soil from which all change grows.
💠 Step Two: Reparent the Inner Child
The child who learned to earn love must be shown a new way.
You don’t fix her — you listen to her.
You become the parent who stays, the one who says,
“You never had to perform to be worthy.”
💠 Step Three: Restore Sacred Boundaries
Boundaries are not walls. They’re doorways of discernment.
Each “no” is a reclamation — of time, energy, truth.
It’s how you tell your nervous system,
“I protect what I value — and I am valuable.”
💠 Step Four: Reclaim the Voice
Narcissistic dynamics thrive on silence - gaslighting, minimising, erasing.
Healing invites you to speak again - haltingly, honestly, powerfully.
Not to convince others, but to hear yourself.
💠 Step Five: Reconnect to Desire
When you stop over-functioning, you finally ask:
“What do I want?”
Desire becomes a compass, not a crime.And in time, joy no longer feels dangerous.
Gentle Reflection 🌿
If you grew up walking on eggshells, love may have felt like a test you could never pass.
You might still find yourself seeking approval, mistaking control for care, or silencing your truth to keep the peace.
But survival is not your destiny. Healing is.
And every time you choose self-respect over self-abandonment,
every time you pause before people-pleasing,
every time you speak the truth that once trembled in your throat -
you are rewiring your story.
You are not becoming selfish.
You are becoming sovereign.
💭 Reflect:
Where did I first learn that love must be earned?
How did I silence myself to stay safe?
What would my life look like if I believed I was enough — without performance, without perfection?
💠 The Path of Emotional Recalibration
In Emotional Recalibration Therapy, we begin by teaching the body safety - because only a safe body can hold the weight of new truths.
We reparent the inner child who learned that love meant disappearing.
We rebuild sacred boundaries that honour your peace.
And we guide you gently back to your voice — so you can speak, choose, and love from wholeness, not wounding.
You are not too much.
You are not broken.
You are becoming.
🌿 Further Reading for Deep Integration
If this piece opened something tender or familiar, these guides may help you explore the roots more deeply:
Frequently Asked Questions
What is the core wound behind narcissism?
Narcissism often begins as a survival response to shame, neglect, or conditional love. In childhood, dominance or performance becomes safer than vulnerability. What looks like ego is often armour — a shield built over an unmet need to be seen.
Can a narcissist change or heal?
Healing requires humility — and that’s the one thing the narcissistic defence resists. While change is possible with deep self-awareness and accountability, it rarely happens without sustained, trauma-informed therapy. Compassion alone cannot create their transformation.
Why do empaths attract narcissists?
Empaths sense the wound behind the mask and try to love it whole. But empathy without boundaries becomes enmeshment. Healing means learning that compassion doesn’t require self-abandonment — and that not every ache is ours to soothe.
What is a trauma bond?
A trauma bond forms when love and fear become intertwined — when moments of kindness are used to keep you tethered to cycles of harm. It isn’t weakness; it’s a nervous system adaptation that can be gently rewired through safety, awareness, and support.
How does Emotional Recalibration Therapy help?
This work teaches the body that safety and love can coexist. Through somatic awareness, inner child healing, and gentle nervous system recalibration, you learn to anchor in truth, restore boundaries, and rebuild trust — so love no longer means losing yourself.
🌿 Next Steps
👉 Read: Inner Child Healing in London
Discover how trauma-informed inner child work can help you heal the roots of people-pleasing and emotional enmeshment.
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You are not too much. You are not broken. You are becoming.
🧭 References
di Giacomo, E., Andreini, E., Lorusso, O., & Clerici, M. (2023). The dark side of empathy in narcissistic personality disorder. Department of Mental Health and Addiction, Health Care Trust–IRCCS San Gerardo Monza, Monza, Italy; School of Medicine and Surgery, University of Milano-Bicocca, Monza, Italy.
Byron, G. G. (1813). The Giaour: A Fragment of a Turkish Tale. London: Thomas Davison.
Cyrus, M. (2024). Interview excerpt cited in Entertainment Weekly, “Joy Behar Questions Miley Cyrus on ‘Inheriting Narcissism’ from Billy Ray” (August 2024). Retrieved from https://ew.com/joy-behar-questions-miley-cyrus-inheriting-billy-ray-narcissism-8662964
Video Transcript for The Truth About Narcissists and Empaths
Why a narcissist is powerless without an empathA narcissist is someone who mistakes control for connection. They build power from absence—absence of empathy, reflection, and accountability—and survive by drawing life from those who feel deeply. Narcissism isn’t confidence; it’s collapse disguised as charisma. Behind the polished mask lies a fractured self, terrified of insignificance, endlessly hungry for admiration. Every compliment is a lifeline. Every boundary feels like a betrayal.
But here’s the truth few acknowledge: a narcissist is powerless without an empath. They need your resonance to feel real. Your warmth becomes their mirror. Your intuition becomes their script. The empath senses the wound beneath the armour and reaches to soothe it, not realising she is feeding the very void that will drain her.
This dance isn’t born from malice alone, but from mutual wounding: the narcissist hides behind grandiosity; the empath hides behind goodness. One fears being small; the other fears being selfish and not chosen. Both were taught love must be earned—one through dominance, the other through devotion.
Healing begins when you stop mistaking intensity for intimacy—when you remember that compassion doesn’t require self-abandonment. If you’ve ever felt yourself shrinking, speaking softer, thinking smaller, questioning your own eyes and ears, you may have whispered that desperate question: Am I with a narcissist? You’re not alone. So many who arrive at this crossroads are tender souls—deep feelers who confuse endurance for empathy, who mistake chaos for chemistry, who think love means understanding harder.
But this question isn’t really about them. It’s about you—about the ache of being unseen, unheard, and endlessly contorted in the name of connection. Before we diagnose, we must humanise. What the world calls narcissism is, at its root, a wound wearing armour—a small, terrified child who learned that dominance is safer than dependence, performance safer than presence.
Narcissists rarely announce themselves. They arrive as saviours, soulmates, or students of self-development. They mirror your light, repeat your language, and reflect the version of love you’ve longed for—at least at first. At the beginning it feels like destiny: they see you, they get you, they adore you. You exhale—finally, someone who meets me in my depth.
Soon the mirror begins to distort. Admiration becomes evaluation. Your boundaries are reframed as rejection. Your feelings become “too much.” Your needs, “needy.” Your truth, a trigger. You find yourself walking on eggshells, editing your words, your tone, your timing—trying to avoid the next cold silence or cutting remark. They withdraw affection to regain control, then flood you with intensity when they fear losing you.
This is the cycle: idealise → devalue → discard → hoover—a loop that traps your nervous system between hope and heartbreak. Over time, your body lives on high alert. Pulse quickens. Breath shallows. You become an expert at reading moods, scanning faces, anticipating storms—emotional contortion that feels like love but is really survival.
Inside this dance, the empath becomes the echo—repeating apologies for wounds she didn’t cause, offering softness to soften rage, believing peace can be purchased with more patience. But love is not meant to erase you. Devotion is not meant to be a disappearing act. When being loved feels like performing—when connection demands the cost of your voice—it’s not love. It’s conditioning. You are not difficult; you are diminished. And the moment you name it, the spell loosens.
Living with narcissistic dynamics isn’t just emotionally draining—it’s neurologically disorienting. The body, designed to be a barometer of truth, becomes a battlefield of confusion. You start doubting your perceptions, questioning whether the storm inside is real enough to name. This is gaslighting: not merely manipulation, but a systematic dismantling of your inner compass. Each dismissal whispers to your nervous system, Your truth is unsafe. Your needs are too much. Your reality is negotiable.
So the body adapts—brilliantly, tragically. Fight turns inward: self-blame, perfectionism, hypervigilance. Flight becomes overwork and overthinking—outrunning the ache. Freeze appears as dissociation: the floating, the fog, watching life from behind glass. And fawn, the empath’s favourite, becomes the art of appeasement—pleasing your way back to safety, soothing others so they don’t abandon you. But in the process, you abandon yourself.
Over time, appeasement feels like identity. You forget who you were before eggshells. You forget what joy feels like without permission. You forget that love should land softly, not arrive with a checklist.
Emotional Recalibration enters here—not as a quick fix, but as a rewiring of safety through trauma-informed inner-child healing. You begin to anchor back into the body as home, not enemy. Relearn the difference between peace and pleasing. Rebuild trust in the inner voice that always knew. Your sensitivity wasn’t the problem—it was a superpower misused in survival. When the nervous system learns that truth isn’t dangerous, it no longer needs to shrink or shout. It can rest. It can receive. It can finally, quietly, belong.
The empathy split (science in plain speak). Research shows many narcissistic individuals have intact cognitive empathy (they can read what you feel) but impaired affective empathy (they don’t feel with you). They may use insight as leverage, not intimacy—empathy as a tool, not a tether. Under threat, neural networks—especially the anterior insula and anterior cingulate cortex (salience/emotion hubs)—struggle to switch smoothly. The system defaults to self-focus: How does this reflect on me? When shame or rivalry is triggered, closeness can feel like danger, and the response is criticism, withdrawal, coldness.
Grandiose types show overt superiority; vulnerable/“covert” types show hypersensitivity and shame awareness—but distress remains self-referential. Both can weaponise cognitive empathy: knowing what you feel while refusing to feel it with you. This is the terrain of dark empathy—emotional intelligence deployed for self-serving ends. Help arrives when praised; vanishes when unseen. It serves the image, not the intimacy.
For empaths, this matters: your compassion fuels their persona. Your intuition writes their lines. When you stop over-functioning—when you withdraw emotional labour and install sacred boundaries—their power dissolves. Not because you are cruel, but because you are no longer the supply.
In real life, the split looks like:– They know what you need to hear, but offer it only when it serves them.– They apologise eloquently; nothing changes.– Empathy in public; cruelty in private.– They mirror your dreams; then mock your growth.– They sometimes do good—but it’s generosity with a spotlight.
It’s this dissonance that keeps the empath tethered: If they can be so loving sometimes, maybe it’s me. No. It’s the split. You’re with someone who can see emotion, not feel it. Without your reflection, they cannot recognise themselves.
Reclaim the mirror.
My empathy is sacred. It is for connection, not control.I will not abandon myself to keep the peace.I am not too much. I am not broken. I am becoming.
How to begin healing after narcissistic wounding
Recalibrate the nervous system. You can’t think your way out of survival mode. Breathwork, grounding, and somatic awareness reteach your system it’s safe now. Safety is the soil from which all change grows.
Reparent the inner child. The child who earned love must be shown a new way. You don’t fix her; you stay with her. You never had to perform to be worthy.
Restore sacred boundaries. Not walls—doorways of discernment. Each “no” is a reclamation of time, energy, and truth.
Reclaim the voice. Speak again—haltingly, honestly, powerfully—not to convince others, but to hear yourself.
Reconnect to desire. When you stop over-functioning you can finally ask, What do I want?
You are not too much. You are not broken. You are becoming.
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