Avoiding Uncomfortable Confrontaion
- tanya15006
- May 8
- 2 min read
Avoiding uncomfortable confrontation doesn’t bring peace
It will eventually do the opposite.
Ultimately, it will bring you pain.
It shuts down communication.
It closes the heart.
It minimises your needs.
It lowers your standards.
It subordinates you.
It confines you into quiet desperation.
Unresolved, it will lead to frustration and resentment, unhealthy foundations on which to build love.
Are you feeling unheard?
Why are you putting up with less than?
Would you like to develop strategies to improve your communication skills?
Love someone enough to be brave, energetic and honest enough to call them out on their actions.
A deep open conversation is challenging.
A fearless account of how you feel is difficult.
But it’s the only way forward.
And once you’ve done it, you’ll find yourself breathtakingly liberated.
I’ve coached many people through these conversations, and every single time it has been a blessed relief from the torment of uncertainty and suffering.
A vulnerable expression of your needs removes ambiguity.
Are you avoiding the difficult conversation because you fear the worst?
You’ll never get your needs met if you lack the courage and ability to express yourself without losing composure.
Working on self-awareness is absolutely vital to understand who you truly are, what you really need, and how to communicate effectively and without embarrassment, guilt or shame.
Acknowledgement of your hurt is crucial.
Commitment to resolving issues is vital.
You both deserve to be seen heard and validated, you can’t keep absorbing disappointment.
Love can be an overused expression to cover up poor effort. See love instead as a way of being and doing. It is how we exist, within and without ourselves.
Unconditional love is a high expectation. Perhaps it isn't entirely possible, or indeed, desirable. There are certain behaviours that would prohibit a right thinking person from loving in this way, particularly if their personal safety is at risk.
Healthy love is
Responsible
Respectful
Reliable
Accountable
Considerate
Committed
Dependable
Focused
Intentional
Invested
Don’t settle.
Love fiercely and passionately enough to elevate your relationship.
And, what if you express yourself beautifully, eloquently and calmly, with suggestions for solutions and strategies for healing and growth, but it is of no use?
Console yourself with the fact you now possess the toned and honed communication techniques of a emotionally recalibrated ninja, and you will never again waste your essence on someone who cannot appreciate these things.
Boundary Work and Inner Child Therapy will transform the way you show up in all your connections; be they professional, family, friendships or intimate relationships.
You will finally stop accepting unconditionally bad behaviour from anyone, including yourself.
Life will start to look very different.
Become an Emotionally Recalibrated Ninja.
Tackle these challenges. Message me to find out more.
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